The momfulness skill that matters the most

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue”  King Solomon As a systemic family therapist, I’m all too aware of how the words of a parent can profoundly impact a child. Stories, phrases and sayings have multiple layers of meaning and impact how children see themselves for a lifetime. We call it “social […]

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5 Mindful Skills for Moms When Things Don’t Go as Planned

My life is so completely different than I planned. I’m a dreamer and I’ve had some big dreams in my life. At this point I have many different versions of my dreams since I’ve had to re-write them often. Even the dreams I had that have become a reality are different in real life than I […]

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Who else wants to slow down?

Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater developments and greater riches and so on, so that children have very little time for their parents. Parents have very little time for each other, and in the home begins the disruption of the peace of the world. Mother Teresa, as quoted […]

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Self-Care: The Secret to True Connection

“Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.” ― bell hooks I have found this to be true: the better I care for myself the better I care for those I love. It’s a radical […]

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8 keys to Mindful Presence in Parenting and Marriage

Who of us is mature enough for offspring before the offspring themselves arrive? The value of marriage is not that adults produce children, but that children (and marriage) produces adults.   Peter De Vries Being truly present while being close to those we love is no easy feat.  It requires practice, intention and patience.  Practice being […]

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The Mammals Guide to Motherhood

We moms can learn a lot about the spirit of momfulness from animals. One of my favorite recollections is the joy of observing the playful spirit of a baby Asian elephant at the zoo when my daughter was about 4. This little one was playing with a huge tire. The tire was chained down, but […]

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Soul Windows

There is an old english proverb that says “the eyes are the windows to the soul.” On my Becoming Momful Project, I had the opportunity this week to focus on making mindful eye contact with my children.  In the “Eye Contact Meditation,” Roy suggests we “move out of ‘absence presence’ and take a breath to […]

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Breathing Out, I Smile

We don’t usually forget to breathe in, but sometimes we forget to breathe out.  We hold it all in…the stress, fear, grief, anger…and our body bears the burden.  So it makes sense to start with the breath.  In Roy’s first assigned exercise in her book Momfulness, is a Breathing Meditation.  She suggests using the two-breath meditation […]

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Project Momfulness

Of all the hats I wear, the “Mom” hat is both the most challenging and the most rewarding. It also matters the most. While there are areas where I feel confident in my mothering, there are so many areas where I desire to grow and improve. The practice of “momfulness” is the medicine for my […]

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Killing Off Supermom

I’ll be honest with you. In my house, the beds are rarely made unless someone is coming to visit. Sometimes I yell. My closet is a disaster and I feel guilty that I work too much. My kids watch more TV than they should. See on www.modernmom.com

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